It is okay to not love pregnancy...
It is okay to not love pregnancy, it does not mean you do not love your baby!
Think about that please because too many women are scared to say these things out loud. It is not something to feel ashamed of. It seems that the world focuses on having babies and the "glow". But as all things go in the world of media and speaking of things, we do not talk about the "unspoken". You hear all about having the glow once you are pregnant and the joys of parenthood. The worst part people think about when it comes to pregnancy is birth. Which also has the overshadow of everything being okay because "it is all worth it once the baby is here". So you are aware of the pain and possibilities of problems but it is not talked about as much.
Well lets talk! We all know about the basics of what women go through during pregnancy. There is morning sickness, weight gain, swollen boobs, fatigue, cramping, mood swings, and a lot of peeing just to name a few. But did they tell you how extreme these symptoms can be or even the other ones that creep up? Morning sickness is not just in the morning and it does not always mean throwing up. You could feel sick and have food adversions instead. The cramping is more like pelvic pressure to abdominal pains. And there are all kinds of pains that can cause issues. What about pelvic girdle pain or SI joint pain that cause severe pain in the hips and pelvic area. Lightening crotch is something you probably never heard of until you were pregnant and asked what this sharp feeling down there is. Insomnia becomes a cycle throughout the whole time that goes hand in hand with fatigue. You could not be sleeping due to all different reasons and then be exhausted. At the same time you could sleep for hours on end and still feel exhausted. There is so much more I could go on about.
This all does not even include the different complications that some women experience. As many women can have a simple and uncomplicated pregnancy, there are more complications happening these days. It just makes it that much harder to go through with symptoms and have a complication. Mental health has become more of an issue than ever whether pregnant or not. Anxiety and depression added in with hormones really make mood swings awful. This makes everyday a struggle for pregnancy. Stress is hard on the body so imagine what that will do to an unborn child. It is so important to take care of yourself during pregnancy. That is why learning more about all of these things is important.
Why should we feel ashamed about having a hard pregnancy? It is more common than you know. Talking to your doctors and other people makes it a lot easier to handle. No pregnancy is the same and no person is the same. Everyone has a different experience. But people can learn from each other. With that being said, we should feel a little better knowing that it is okay to "not feel amazing" during those 9 months. It will not take away from the person you are. It sure does not make being a mom any less amazing.